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Topic No. 1: Life After the Wedding - the Married Life.

What are the things you want them to know about life after the wedding?

I must admit the first 6 months was all about adjusting and compromise. But slowly we have mastered each other habits & quirks that BIG fights turned into petty fights and married life is actually blissful and truly happy right now at 18 months of marriage.

I learned :

• That small things like electric fans & sleeping habits makes a difference in our sleeping arrangement. Ozzy & I need our electric fans; hubby can't stand one. So we have 2 separate beds.


• Husbands depend/rely/expect wives to pick up after them so after 6 months of nagging I just DO it and hope hubby sees me and does his part as well (are you reading this CHI?). You'' realize that you can only change yourself; never try to change your partner.


• As a Work-at-Home-Mom I began to resent HIM going out on weekends with friends while Ozzy & I stay at home all the time; I cannot change that fact because it is who he is; so after a lot of petty fights we have compromised on curfew & frequency of night outs.


• That sometimes it IS better to sleep it off; battling it out in the wee hours of the morning just so we don't sleep mad at each other doesn't really make things better.


• Petty fights, arguments and misunderstanding in marriage is OK. It's even healthy. You learn about each other. The important thing is that the couple keeps on trying to make the marriage work and try hard get it right.


• Getting my way ALL the time is not really as important as finding a way to work it out together.


• Most especially, after marriage I learned the virtues of trust, hope & love. Read more about it here when we celebrated our 1st year together.

I want my son/children to know:

1. That when you decide to marry that 'special' person make sure you truly know who this person is. His weaknesses & his strengths because marriage is no joke. You cannot just say, ooopss I made a mistake, next! You have to WORK to make the marriage "work". And divorce is not legal in the Philippines. Hehehe


2. For my son, he is the guy, provide for your family. Work hard and don't ever lay a hand on your wife and children.


3. Respect your wife. Tell her she's the most beautiful girl always.


4. Respect the family of the one your marrying because they are your family too.


5. Also, be there for your family. Not only financially but physically. Work is important but at the end of the day, family time and creating memories together is what counts.

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Tips for Conceiving a BABY

……………. for couples who are trying to conceive, just for fun, read the tips below. We never know right? Hubby forwarded me this email. He knows I want a baby girl next. So at least, we have tips to follow.

Hope it is useful for some of you in planning stage. For those of you do not have any plan in the near future, you can keep it for future reference.

Background:
Man’s sperm consists of X & Y spermatozoa, X spermatozoon decides the female whereas Y is the male. Referring to these physiological properties of the spermatozoa, gynecologists set up the theory of ‘Choice of a girl or a boy’.
1st factor: Food

If you want a baby girl:
Husband must eat more alkaline food, wife eats more acidic food.
If you want a baby boy:
Husband eats more acidic food, wife eats more alkaline food.

Alkaline food: vegetables, fruits, egg white, milk, algae, etc.
Acidic food: meat, seafood, etc.
2nd factor: Timing (When to do it ?)

If you want a baby girl:
Frequent copulation during pre-ovulation period.
If you want a baby boy:
Copulating just before ovulation or just after ovulation.

How to confirm ovulation period:
Body temperature increases (you may want to use SPC chart to monitor your body temperature here).
3rd factor: Penetration (How to do it ?)

If you want a baby girl:
Husband to avoid deep penetration in the female vagina during copulation.
If you want a baby boy:
Deep penetration by the husband is suggested.

Reasoning:
Characteristics of X & Y spermatozoa

X: Marathon runner with good stamina
Y: Sprinter but poor stamina

So, with deep penetration, the chances for Y to reach destination will be higher.
4th factor: Stimulation

If you want a baby girl:
Wife should avoid stimulation during copulation. Secretion from female vagina becomes alkaline when stimulated, therefore this promotes the activity of Y spermatozoon.

If you want a baby boy:
Husband ejaculates after wife has been stimulated.
5th factor: Wife’s Preparation

If you want a baby girl:
Rinse the vagina with solution dissolving 2 spoonfuls of white vinegar in 1 liter of water. Since an acidic condition decreases activity of Y spermatozoon.

If you want a baby boy:
Rinse the vagina with solution dissolving 2 spoonfuls of soda in 1 liter of water.
6th factor: Positioning

If you want a baby girl:
Female to be on the top position & male to be on the bottom position.
If you want a baby boy:
Male to be on the top position & female to be on the bottom position. This posture allows the Y spermatozoon to reach the destination faster.

Just remember these are just tips and are no way 100% effective. Enjoy!

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Baby Einstein

My son enjoys watching videos of animals, letters, numbers & sounds. He currently has Brainy Baby Videos, Brilliant Baby and Disney Video's. Most of these are either given to me or are free from his 900gram Gain Milk.

I was looking for a different video for him because I am really bored with the one's he has now. A lot of my mommy friends suggested Baby Einstein because it is enjoyable & their kids love it as well.

So I looked. I found a wide selection of different kinds of Baby CD's, VCD's and DVD's in one of the kids store in Ayala Mall. I was ecstatic. They were all there...as soon as I found the Baby Einstein DVD and flipped it over to see the price I gasped, Php1,500.00/each!!

OMG. I thought it might be around Php500-700/each only and not Php1,500.00!

Good thing my phone rang, my friends were looking for me already. We were gonna watch Sex & the City Movie so I told the lady I'd come back. I really will, but I'd think about it first.

Is the Baby Einstein really that expensive?

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I feel bad

Last Saturday, while taking our evening bath, Joshua fell on the rock hard cement floor. It was completely MY fault & I feel so bad about it. I wasn’t able to watch him because I was rinsing my hair. He was just by my side then suddenly he was already falling.

What happened was he tried to get into the pail of water and lost his balance.

There was crying but something else made me freak out. I saw blood coming out from the back of his head.

Every parent’s nightmare. Seeing their child hurt & maybe in danger.

So after freaking out, putting cold compress on his bump, consulting the baby book, and bandaging his wound, Josh & I assessed that the boy is fine. His bump was not blue & black, it was just cut and there was loads (according to me) of blood because there are lots of veins in the scalp.

The boy was fine after a bit of crying, he was not vomiting, his eyelids were not dilated (we checked), and he was perfectly himself.

The whole night, I was monitoring him, I felt so guilty. I felt stupid. I felt reckless. I felt inadequate. Why the heck did God trust me with a baby, I’m so careless. I’m not at all perfect but I try my hardest for Joshua. Oh well, lesson learned. I should have known better, I should keep an eye on him 24/7.

I just can’t help thanking God that nothing serious happened to him.

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