Discipline Effectively
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
A 3-year old with a new baby brother is a handful. My boy has his moments wherein he regresses and acts like a baby. I guess its his way of telling me that he too needs my 100% attention. I do understand where he is coming from considering Hubby is not here and I am mostly focused on the baby. That is why whenever the baby is asleep and I am not too dead tired, I always make it a point to spend quality time with my boy. We would play, read books or just simply talk. I realized, 90% of the time where he's misbehaving its because he's asking for my undivided attention.
However, during times wherein he is out of control I resort to 5 minute time-outs. I must admit there have been times I've spanked him (nothing too painful) just a little tap on his hand or behind just so he knows I am being serious, but I feel so bad after that I promised myself I won't do it again. Besides, that would only teach him to hit others as well and I don't want that. Anyway, I find time-outs work. Then again, there are different scolding tactics for different tantrums. For time-outs what I do is ask him to watch the clock and that if it hits a certain number his time-out is done. He responds better this way which is a good thing. After the time out, he is calm and that's where I sit down and talk to him about why he got punished.
Other discipline tactics I use is taking away a privilege like not allowing him to watch TV or play with Laptop. When he misbehaves or says "No!" I would always talk to him about consequences. For example, he refuses to take a bath, I would tell him that if he does not take a bath, he can't come with me to the office or he can't play with his car or something like that. He actually knows there are consequences if he does not behave at this point. Generally, he is a good boy whose very affectionate towards me and his baby brother, as long as he's not in his grumpy mood he's the sweetest little boy I know.
However, during times wherein he is out of control I resort to 5 minute time-outs. I must admit there have been times I've spanked him (nothing too painful) just a little tap on his hand or behind just so he knows I am being serious, but I feel so bad after that I promised myself I won't do it again. Besides, that would only teach him to hit others as well and I don't want that. Anyway, I find time-outs work. Then again, there are different scolding tactics for different tantrums. For time-outs what I do is ask him to watch the clock and that if it hits a certain number his time-out is done. He responds better this way which is a good thing. After the time out, he is calm and that's where I sit down and talk to him about why he got punished.
Other discipline tactics I use is taking away a privilege like not allowing him to watch TV or play with Laptop. When he misbehaves or says "No!" I would always talk to him about consequences. For example, he refuses to take a bath, I would tell him that if he does not take a bath, he can't come with me to the office or he can't play with his car or something like that. He actually knows there are consequences if he does not behave at this point. Generally, he is a good boy whose very affectionate towards me and his baby brother, as long as he's not in his grumpy mood he's the sweetest little boy I know.
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